Twelve is a quite the important year for girls! This is the year that many transition from girlhood into young womanhood. Physical changes, emotional changes, spiritual maturing… these often seem to take a giant leap in girls around age twelve. Tomorrow is Chelle’s twelfth birthday, and that day will bring many celebrations of its own with cake, balloons, and presents. But today, she and I celebrated her last day of being eleven in a different way with a special “Girl Time.”
To start the day, Chelle and I went into my jewelry box and got out a special ring. Back Story – Several years ago, my mom took some of her own beautiful rings that had been given to her over the years, and she had a jeweler re-set each of the rings with my daughters’ birthstones. She gave a ring to each of the girls. The older girls could wear their rings from the start, but I have been holding the rings for the younger girls for safe keeping until they are old enough to take care (i.e. not lose) them. This morning, Chelle was entrusted with her beautiful ruby ring!
Next, Chelle and I went out to breakfast, just the two of us. We played a conversation game where we took turns asking each other questions, to learn new things about each other. Trying to find questions was actually harder than it sounds, because we already know each other really well! In the course of our conversation, I got to learn what Chelle hopes to name her children some day, new hobbies that she hopes to learn, and what kind of pet she’d choose if our family wasn’t deathly allergic to animals, among other things. We had a delightful chat!
After breakfast, we drove over to Pier One. We bought Chelle a beautiful china plate, so that she can always remember that she is God’s fine china plate, set apart for his own special purposes. This is a tradition in our family that we started when Ashlyn was the same age, and it is based on 2 Timothy 2:20-21.
Now in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and silver but also of wood and clay, some for honorable use, some for dishonorable. Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonorable, he will be a vessel for honorable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work.
Our next stop was Walgreens. Along the way, we had some discussion of a more delicate nature. To clarify, I don’t believe in having “The Talk,” as in only one talk. Rather, I believe that as our children grow, we should be having many talks along the way. So, I have talked with Chelle before about delicate matters, but since twelve is an age when many girls tend to go transition into young ladies, we needed to discuss again the changes that will likely be approaching in the coming year. I explained to her the purpose of our Walgreens visit: to purchase some things that she will need as those changes occur.
Once in the store, we picked up “lady” things, both delicate and fun. Nail polish, lip gloss, razor, shaving gel, deodorant, and pads. Chelle enjoyed the whole experience, which was my goal. I don’t ever want my girls to fear growing up, but to embrace those changes as a special time that God is growing them in new and beautiful ways.
It was a special day. I love this girl! She has been such a sweet blessing to our whole family these first eleven years of her life! I look forward to knowing the young woman she will become.
If you’d like to hear more about some traditions as our children grow up, check out these posts:
- A Fine China Plate (Discipling Daughters)
- Traditions for Growing Daughters
- Makeup… and a Bible Lesson (on Wisdom and Innocence)
- Celebrating Accomplishments
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