You don’t have to iron so much, or hardly at all. If you hang clothes up out of the dryer (or off the line) most are not too wrinkled to wear. There are the occasional pieces that will need ironed for church or other nice events, but for most things, non-ironed clothes will suffice, especially for young children. Cherish a neat appearance without obsessing about perfection. And really, ironing is just an example of all the ways we feel pressured to be perfect. Give your best, but know that your best will vary in different seasons of life. If your best, with a house full of little people, is getting them out the door with matching shoes (or shoes at all), exhale and accept it. In a different season, your best may look…better.
Parents, are your children cowered into becoming frightened poster-boys of your ideology? Know this: fear eventually wears off. And when it does, they will search for sure footing and find none. They’ll wish you had been honest, upfront and gracious about truth, instead of focusing so much on fear.
How do I teach each child their lessons AND cook 3 nutritious meals a day AND nurse the baby AND keep everyone in clean clothes AND keep the dust bunnies at bay, all on very little sleep?! Did I mention that right now I’m only teaching 3 out of my 6 and we are focusing just on phonics and math?
There are many virtuous women left in this dark world, candles burning brightly, fighting their own quiet “culture war” by making their homes havens, appreciating and cultivating beauty, and being chaste, loyal, and others-centered.
A Canadian ad agency has just broken every politically correct rule of TV fatherhood. General Mills Canada hired the Toronto firm to pitch a product that’s “awesome and responsible”: Peanut Butter Cheerios. The commercial’s Creative Director Josh Stein did something truly creative. He associated the two words with fatherhood. The result: a two minute tour of family life narrated by a young middle class dad who isn’t dopey, clueless, cowardly, or detached from reality. And get this: he comes with a wife and children who respond to him in the home with affection and respect.
Everyone loves a good story, and history is just that; a continuous string of narratives of human beings and their trials and triumphs. Studying these stories as simply events and dates is like stripping a scrumptious chicken of its flesh and leaving only the bones–nothing much left in the way of soul-nourishing food.
It is the storytellers that bring history alive to us, that make it accessible, that bring us into contact with places, ideas, and experiences that can become as fresh in our minds as in the days they occurred.
When it comes to unrealistic expectations about men, it can be very healthy for a girl to read plenty of books by men, especially if she doesn’t have brothers to relate to. Books by women tend to cater to feminine weaknesses, and reading books by men is a fantastic way for a girl to see the world through another point of view. I can never help comparing two pot-boiler swashbucklers on this point. In Mary Johnston’s fun To Have and To Hold, the life of the hero revolves around the heroine. But in Anthony Hope’s exciting The Prisoner of Zenda, the hero remarks at one fraught moment that he was not thinking of the heroine, but of how much he’d like to smoke a pipe. Because I had read The Prisoner of Zenda and other books by men, I knew that To Have and To Hold was being a little unrealistic on this point.
Just for fun… Did you ever take one of those Jane Austen quizzes? Let me guess… you were Elizabeth Bennett, Emma Woodhouse, or Elinor Dashwood, right? This quiz is quite different from any of the others. If you are a fan of Jane Austen, this will make you smile!